Einstein’s theory of time’s relativity concept states the higher you live above sea level the faster you age. The other part of his theory is that time and space are not as constant as everyday life. I have yet to master understanding relativity, but thinking about time as a dimension fascinates me. I hope that wherever I live I can stay in the present moment. The fourth dimension is time, so humans live in the present moment if we concentrate.
My youngest son is grasping more about how the past is past and the future hasn’t happened. We talked about it when he came for a holiday visit. Raising my sons to be ‘normal’ in the world was a big challenge for me as a sober person, and my commitment was that they never see me loaded. I was ‘present’ with them as they grew up as best I could be, but that doesn’t mean they were there.
We talked about how fleeting time can be, and how people can easily obsess so that the present is forgotten during its passing.
My son is looking back as an adult in his mid-twenties, seeing that what and how we raised him as solidly as parents like my third husband and I could be. My son moved through time with his thoughts to the point that he forgot about present time while he was growing up.
The cycle begins for most of us. We wish for the future, missing what’s going on in the moment, and regretting that we missed the moment of true life.
I remember also tripping on that in my early twenties. I feel grateful to have learned that the SERENITY PRAYER is a prayer about time. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
The current moment comes from acceptance. Good reminder. We can’t change anything but the present, and it’s fleeting. So I tried to help my son engage with the present and breathe.