Pursuit of happiness is my American right. Thomas Jefferson wrote it into our Constitution, along with Life, and Liberty. ‘Unalienable rights” given by our Creator to be protected by our government. For decades I thought I just had to want it, and happiness would magically appear without strings. I didn’t have to work for it. Happiness takes commitment and action. I want the partner, the job, the car, the children, and the retirement package, so I can be happy and get my way. The word is pursuit, and it takes work to improve my life.
It took time and many mistakes to learn what I didn’t want. I crashed two marriages and lived with my own substance problem before I understood poor choices led to unhappy consequences for everyone. I couldn’t turn poor choices good ones. I’m currently pursuing a peaceful heart, and it makes sense to let go of things I can’t change.
My friend says she started questioning her motives because she realized she was the one who escalated family arguments. She started asking herself if fighting is worth the battle. Things are better in her family.
Pursuit can mask my need to control, so I welcome another growth opportunity to let go and pursue peace.