Yesterday on the phone, a friend confronted me about something I said to her in a recent conversation, and I’m glad she did. I previously made a flippant remark about something, and she didn’t like or understand where I was coming from. She had self-esteem, and checked out why I said it. The details don’t really matter, but what does matter is that she confronted me about why I said what I said, and she told me how she felt. I was not trying to be a bitch, but my words came off as callous. I owed her an apology for being insensitive. She helped me by calling me on it.
My language has bigger consequences.
I do not want to lose a friend because I said something in a casual way that hurt her. My speaking habit is to incorrectly speak for others, or dismiss a real concern.
I want to change. I don’t care where I learned to say those things. I do not want to cause harm in my life today. I want to be a compassionate listener and not respond with callous indifference.
I am willing to accept my imperfections and to grow up. My old response would have been to defend myself, because I couldn’t handle making mistakes. I know better, and understand my language has consequences. I make mistakes. I can survive justified criticism.
Thanks to my friend who cares enough to help me grow.