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homing pidgeon

accountability can feel like an attack when it’s not
Sometimes other people ‘s lives and stories matter more than mine, and I emesh into problems that don’t concern me. I’m learning to distinguish between my love of stories and my respect for other people’s privacy. The important difference is to be clear about who I am from who other people are.
I shared a story of struggle that belonged to someone, and a lady confronted me. She made me understand that the story I told was not mine to tell. Continue reading “accepting criticism” »

water is everything
The recent Butte fire was so devastating to Calaveras County with 71 thousand burned acres, and 500 people losing their homes. Three hours west in the Bay Area, people barely heard about Butte fire, and the Valley fire from Lake County got more attention.
When I got back from a week’s evacuation, I ‘unfriended’ people from my facebook account because they didn’t ask what went down with my family’s evacuation. I am no longer interested in facebook friendships. People who care about me would let me know they cared about how we dealt with the fire. Maybe that’s not true. Oh, well. I’ve got fewer ‘friends.’ Continue reading “Friending and Unfriending” »
Deep feelings need honest music, a line between loneliness and a hopeful language. Can I repair something that was never there in the first place? I cannot control what others think and do, but I try to manipulate the way others see me. Continue reading “responding to ‘persuasion’” »

West Point made it
We lost power and experienced mandatory evacuation for a week. Now survivors stand around our town feeling stunned that the place wasn’t demolished by the flames.
The Butte fire ferociously erupted three weeks ago, and over 500 Calaveras county homes were burned to the ground not far from West Point. Some of us can’t believe we’re so lucky. Continue reading “surviving Butte fire” »

Palm Beach circa 1900 – 1906. Reproduced from the collections of the Library of Congress.
My cousin is very brave when it comes to facing her feelings, and for years she’s practiced coping skills to help her with reactions from people who don’t want to discuss unpleasantries.
Several cousins got together for a picnic, and I listened to my cousin handle topics that truly used to terrify her. She knows how to use skills like recognizing painful emotion when they appear, naming her deep experience and staying in direct contact with temporary negative emotion. She responds honestly about how she feels by using specific language. Continue reading “watching her grow” »

boy with question
B- pacing
M- sitting
B: I don’t know what to believe. Continue reading “magical thinking” »

site of magic
Sometimes the unexpected makes this life worth living. Butte fire evacuation was lifted in our area yesterday, so I returned with three dogs and stuff I think I need. Our house still stands. Continue reading “blessed life” »

my mother grew up in a house like this
Our house had no mirrors, except for the medicine cabinet in our tiny bathroom. I sat in the sink after my baths with my hair twisted up in a towel, staring into my tiny reflection, grooving on how glamorous I was in a turban. Continue reading “Early times” »